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Safe Sex Work

How can sex work, when chosen and practiced safely, be a powerful tool to explore sexual feelings around abuse, and take control of our bodies? What can we learn from sex workers about body safety and talking with children? Join Sophia and sex worker Chelsey Peach as they discuss. IMPORTANT NOTE: By platforming Sex Work, we are not condoning children accessing porn and recognise that the mainstream porn industry is toxic and abusive. However, to prevent childhood sexual abuse, conversations on consent, sex and bodies need to happen in age appropriate ways, and who else better to share their thoughts on that than a sex worker who is also a parent! Our work will always be about platforming the diversity of survivor experiences, and some survivors engage in sex work and have very important lessons to share on how to practice these conversations safely. We might not agree with all the perspectives and on ways to do it , but there are things to learn from each person and recognise that not all survivors are a monolith.


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About your hosts

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Safe Sex Work & Child Sexual Abuse Podcast (Video or Audio Options)

A more in-depth podcast episode, giving context and personal stories associated with the topic.


Things you should and shouldn't say to when talking about sex, sex work and Child Sexual Abuse

A short video episode, focusing on two things you should and two things you shouldn’t say to someone who has experienced (or is experiencing) child sexual abuse.


Episode transcripts

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A Recap

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Additional Tips

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About your hosts


Sophia - Founder of Secrets Worth Sharing

Sophia (she/her) is a survivor of child sexual abuse, designer and the founder of Secrets Worth Sharing, where she builds a community of having these difficult conversations with 'serious joy'.


Chelsey Peach - Full Service Sex Worker

A full service sex worker, content creator and podcaster with a passion for destigmatising all things sex work. Chelsey (she/her) is an advocate for sex workers rights and full decriminalisation, as we all deserve access to safe working conditions and workers rights.


 

Safe Sex Work & Child Sexual Abuse

In-depth Podcast, 40 minutes.


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Things you Should and Shouldn't do when talking about sex, sex work and childhood sexual abuse

Practical do's and don't's episode, 8 minutes


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To recap...

Things you should say/do to support your partner who experienced abuse

Why?

Respect Boundaries

  • Avoid prying into someone's personal experiences, especially their trauma

  • Encourage open communication and consent within sexual relationships as well as aftercare

  • Be a supportive and non-judgmental listener

  • Understand that sex workers are individuals with complex lives and experiences 

Support Survivor-Led and Sex worker led Movements

  •  Advocate for the decriminalisation and destigmatisation of sex work through campaigns and protests

  • Amplify the voices of survivors and sex workers whenever you can

  • Ask what you can do for someone else to make them feel better

Things you shouldn't say

Why

Don't Ask Invasive Questions

  • Respect privacy and avoid prying into personal details as you could trigger someone

  • Don’t make jokes about potentially sensitive subjects such as ‘rape, locking up rooms and worst sex experiences’

Don't Make Assumptions

  • Avoid making generalisations or stereotypes about sex workers and their experiences

  • Not everyone has the same experience and background and reasons for why they do the work they do

Don't Shame or Blame

  • Don’t kink shame and acknowledge the harm caused by sexual abuse and exploitation

  • Avoid stigmatising sex workers or survivors of sexual abuse

 

Production Crew / Special Thanks

  • Editing and Subtitles - Tom Eames

 

Additional resources and tips


Learn more about Decrim Now, the National Campaign for sex worker's rights mentioned in this episode.


Read Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights by Juno Mac and Molly Smith







Alice’s Better Sex Blog - more thoughts on kink shaming from a Sex worker




S*x Workers’ Union (@swunion_uk) • Instagram photos and videos *Please note - in sharing resources mentioned by our co-hosts, we are not necessarily endorsing all of their content, but we do so to allow you to make up your own mind.



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